For Families: Month 1

Week One: Getting Started

If you haven’t yet, please read the introductory content with your family before jumping into this first week of prompts. It will help all of you know what’s coming, and what amazing things you’re going to accomplish together.

Day 1
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Intro

Because we’re just starting today, we’ll make it a little shorter in terms of the sharing time, and things will pick up as we go along. Enjoy it! Although the sharing will become a little deeper over time, we’ll be sure to put in some times just for fun all along the way.

Here’s how it works!

  • Family members break into pairs. Keep track of who is paired with whom.
  • If our family has an uneven number of people, there will be one triplet group.
  • Each time we do this, we’ll pair up with someone different before we repeat our pairs.
  • Decide who goes first. That person speaks for up to five uninterrupted minutes.
  • Listen from the most loving place in our hearts.
  • When we’ve all spoken and listened, have a time of reflection.
  • Whatever is said is accepted and isn’t brought back up again for 24 hours, unless there is a threat or risk to anyone (such as suicidal thoughts).
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Prompt

Break into pairs. Each person will have 5 minutes to respond to the prompt uninterrupted.

We each have up to five minutes to talk about our favorite flavors, foods, or meals. We can talk about anything from a best meal to restaurants to favorite meals for certain occasions (camping, birthdays, holidays, hanging out with family, studying, road trips, after working out, etc.)

When each person speaks, the partner just listens and doesn’t comment. The second person should respond to the prompt, not what the first person has said.

Ring the bell to start your sharing time. Ring it after five minutes so you can trade roles from listener to speaker. Ring the bell at the end of sharing time.

Note: Five minutes is the goal, but these first few prompts may go more quickly. Remind everyone not to respond to one another during their five minute talking time. You’re to just respond to the prompt directly.

Connecting

Connecting

You’ll have 2 minutes to talk together about what you each shared in response to the prompt.

What did you have in common about what you like?

Ring the bell to mark the end of two minutes.

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Daily Challenge

This goal is based on our daily prompt, and lays the groundwork for more intentional mindfulness later. If possible, touch base with each other at the end of the day.

It’s interesting that there are so many different likes when it comes to food. Today, notice how things taste. We eat so many foods for so many different reasons. Notice how you’re feeling when you eat today, and how our feelings influence whether or not we make healthy food choices.

Day 2
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Intro

Take a minute or two to see how the Daily Challenge went. Did everyone savor flavors?

Things to remember:

  • We’re going only talk when it is our turn to talk.
  • We’ll only listen when it is our turn to listen.
  • We’ll listen from our most loving place in our hearts.
  • When we’ve all spoken and listened, we’ll have a time to connect.
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Prompt

Break into pairs. Each person will have 5 minutes to respond to the prompt uninterrupted.

When it is your turn, share all your favorite things to do with free time that don’t involve screens or devices.

Ring the bell to start your sharing time. Ring it after five minutes so you can trade roles from listener to speaker. Ring the bell at the end of sharing time.

Note: Five minutes is the goal, but these first few prompts may go more quickly. Remind everyone not to respond to one another during their five minute talking time. You’re to just respond to the prompt directly.

Connecting

Connecting

You’ll have 2 minutes to talk together about what you each shared in response to the prompt.

Were there things you and your partner both shared that you could do together?

Ring the bell to mark the end of two minutes.

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Daily Challenge

This goal is based on our daily prompt, and lays the groundwork for more intentional mindfulness later. If possible, touch base with each other at the end of the day.

Most families spent more time with screens and devices than with each other. Let’s notice how this goes for us over the next few days.

Day 3
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Intro

Is everyone remembering?

  • How are you doing with not interrupting the speaker?
  • Listening from your heart?

How did we do with finding something to do together without screens?

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Prompt

Share the funniest thing you ever remember happening in your family! (Parents can choose whether to relate to this in current time or when they were young.)

Ring the bell to start your sharing time. Ring it after five minutes so you can trade roles from listener to speaker. Ring the bell at the end of sharing time.

Note: Five minutes is the goal, but these first few prompts may go quite a bit more quickly. Remind everyone not to respond to one another during their four minute talking time. You’re to just respond to the prompt directly.

Connecting

Connecting

You’ll have 2 minutes to talk together about what you each shared in response to the prompt.

What did you like most about what your partner shared?

Ring the bell to mark the end of two minutes.

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Daily Challenge

This goal is based on our daily prompt, and lays the groundwork for more intentional mindfulness later. If possible, touch base with each other at the end of the day.

This is a good time to pay attention to being sure that laughter within the family isn’t at anyone’s expense. If one person is being laughed at, and isn’t feeling good, that’s not OK! This week, pay attention to whether laughter is ever at someone else’s expense.

Week Two

Day 1
Introduction

Intro

If your family has an uneven number and you have one triad (group of three), think of something those who are in pairs – who will finish earlier – might do with their time waiting for the triad to finish. You could have art supplies and diad people could make a card for someone in the family, or better yet, someone they know who needs encouragement or connection.

What did you notice about your family and laughter? Is it ever at someone else’s expense?

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Prompt

When it is your turn, share someplace you have been that was interesting. (Parents can share places they found interesting when they were the age of their activity partner for today if paired with a child.)

Ring the bell to start your sharing time. Ring it after five minutes so you can trade roles from listener to speaker. Ring the bell at the end of sharing time.

Connecting

Connecting

What did you find in common with about the places you find interesting?

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Daily Challenge

Even going out in the backyard or down to the park can allow us to see interesting things if we’re paying attention to what’s happening around us. Between now and our next 5 Radical Minutes time, let’s all work at being aware and noticing something that is growing near our home that we’ve never noticed before.

Day 2
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Intro

Another thought…

In addition to not interrupting one another, begin to think about also not bringing up the ideas or thoughts you share with one another for the rest of the evening.  Although it doesn’t matter so much now, it will as the topics take on more depth and require courage for people to share. It will remove some risk to know that no one is going to bring up what we talked about tonight after our time is finished! Instead, when your partner’s words come up for you later in the evening, just ponder them! Reflect on them. But don’t make them a topic of conversation right away unless the person who voiced those thoughts is the one to bring them up again.

Did anybody notice anything growing that you’ve never noticed before?

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Prompt

When it is your turn, share someplace you’d like to go in the next year. (Again, parents can share what they wanted to do when they were the age of their activity partner, or something current is fine as well.)

Ring the bell to start your sharing time. Ring it after five minutes so you can trade roles from listener to speaker. Ring the bell at the end of sharing time.

Connecting

Connecting

You might connect this time by doing a whole-family sharing with each person telling their desired place to go and seeing whether any of them are possible ideas for the future. Or you could simply enjoy one another’s ideas.

Ring the bell to mark the end of two minutes.

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Daily Challenge

Let’s figure out how to enjoy some sort of interesting place together in the next few weeks.

Day 3
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Prompt

When it is your turn, share something kind you saw someone do today. (Again, parents can use a childhood or current memory.)

Ring the bell to start your sharing time. Ring it after five minutes so you can trade roles from listener to speaker. Ring the bell at the end of sharing time.

Connecting

Connecting

You’ll have 2 minutes to talk together about what you each shared in response to the prompt.

What did your stories have in common?

Ring the bell to mark the end of two minutes.

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Daily Challenge

This goal is based on our daily prompt, and lays the groundwork for more intentional mindfulness later. If possible, touch base with each other at the end of the day.

Being kind makes a difference. Look for opportunities to be kind during the next few days.

Week Three

Day 1
Introduction

Intro

Before you speak, take the first 30 seconds or so and close your eyes and take three deep breaths.  Let yourself relax a little more with each breath.  Let yourself anticipate enjoying the time and open your eyes with a smile!

Ring the bell after 30 seconds.

Let’s hear how any of us were kind in these past few days.

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Prompt

When it is your turn, share something you like about one plant or tree or animal.

Connecting

Connecting

Did you have anything in common about what you each liked?

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Daily Challenge

Let’s all work on noticing and appreciating nature more every single day.

Day 2
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Intro

One of the goals of the program is to help families move toward spending more time outside and noticing the beauty of nature.  It is becoming rare for families to spend time together without someone looking at a screen.  Remember, all activities related to the 5 Radical Minutes program are done with all digital devices entirely off, once you’ve read the prompt for the day! Other than that, completely screen-free.

What did anybody notice about nature this week?

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Prompt

Today spend your time sharing your thoughts on how it has been to do the program so far. Talk about what you like, what you don’t, what seems silly or contrived, or whatever you’d like. But you are still doing this in pairs with up to five uninterrupted minutes of talking time. This will be a good test on whether you can keep from lapsing into conversation rather than just listening and not replying or agreeing or giving suggestions!

Connecting

Connecting

What did you have in common regarding your thoughts and feelings about the program?

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Daily Challenge

We’re learning a lot about each other during this time! The prompts will be changing over time, so stick with it!

Day 3
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Prompt

Although we all know that stress is an uncomfortable feeling inside us, there is more to it than that. Stress very directly hampers our abilities in many areas. It keeps us from being able to concentrate at school or work, it can be distracting and take us off task. It is especially detrimental when we’re trying to concentrate on tests or give a presentation, but it also interferes with how well we can compete athletically and how healthy our relationships are.

Before we start our paired sharing, we’re going to watch a one-minute video of someone many of you will recognize – Kobe Bryant. Does everyone know who he is?

[Let a someone in the family share that he is a basketball star.]

He has become really successful, and he has a skill that can help anyone improve in sports, in school or at work. It could be helpful in any kind of skill. So let’s hear what he has to say.

Connecting

Connecting

What surprised you about Kobe Bryant and what he said in the video? Together, make a list of all the things you could do better if you had less stress and greater self-conrol and focus. See how long you can make your list.

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Daily Challenge

For the next few days, notice how and when stress interferes with your life.

Week Four

Day 1
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Prompt

When it is your turn, share a hiding place you loved when you were little!

Connecting

Connecting

With your partner, talk about all of what makes someplace a great hiding place.

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Daily Challenge

It’s fun to think about the places that used to feel the safest when we were younger. Sometimes when we feel unsafe, we turn to food, and other times we may binge-watch Netflix. Often, we pick up our phones and try to distract ourselves or numb the fear. This week, notice the times you might not feel as safe, included, or appreciated, and what you do to help yourself feel better.

Day 2
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Prompt

When it is your turn, talk about something you’d like to learn in the next year, and talk about your reason for that choice.

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Connecting

Is there anything similar about what you want to learn? Is there anything similar in the reason you want to learn?

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Daily Challenge

How can you encourage one another to learn new things?

Day 3
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Intro

Did anyone learn anything interesting since we got together last?

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Prompt

Share what you think about to try to get to sleep at night. Parents can choose between what they think about now or what they thought about when they were the age of their activity partner.

Watch the video here.

Connecting

Connecting

Were there simililarities about how you try to go to sleep? Did you learn any new ideas from one another?

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Daily Challenge

This week, pay attention to how much sleep you’re getting and whether it is adequate.