For Families: Month 3

Week One

Day 1
prompt

Prompt

Feeling like we belong is really important. It is important at home, at work, at school, in clubs, when we’re with a group of friends. Today talk about a place that feels like you belong and describe what others do that lets you know that you belong.

Connecting

Connecting

Were there similarities in what makes both partners feel like they belong?

challenge

Daily Challenge

Belonging is a great feeling. Notice people who might not feel like they belong and try to bring them into the circle.

Day 2
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Prompt

We’ve talked about different kinds of relationships and what it is like to feel like we belong. Today share with your partner the ways you see others let people know that they don’t belong. What kinds of things do they say? What do they do?

Connecting

Connecting

What was similar about your observations about how people let others know they don’t belong.

challenge

Daily Challenge

Over the next week, notice times when someone might be feeling like they don’t belong, and see what you can do to help them feel included, at least by you.

Day 3
prompt

Prompt

Today we’re going to listen to something that is going to begin to teach us how to decrease stress in our lives. It is something we will learn over time, so we don’t need to expect that we’ll do anything other than just listen and do what the voice tells us. Listen to a Blue Sky Moment here.

The “Beginning Breathing” is a great place to start.

challenge

Daily Challenge

When you feel stress this week, try practicing what you learned today.

Week Two

Day 1
Introduction

Intro: Circle Time

We’re going to integrate a new type of activity into our time together. Every couple of weeks, instead of meeting in pairs, we’re going to meet as a whole group. These circles are times when we still only listen when one person speaks, and it isn’t a conversation. We aren’t going to jump in to answer what someone else says… the practice is to think about your own response to the prompt and only say that the first time around the circle. Just like the stress reduction activities, it is OK for this to feel strange at first.  It takes a while for parents to learn how to just reflect on what their kids say and, for some kids, it takes a while before they feel like they can really speak their truth.  It will come with time.

 

When you do circles, you might want to have something like a “talking stick” or “talking rock” or some object that the speaker holds.  That helps the rest of the group remember not to interrupt or lapse into conversation. You don’t have to go around the circle in order, but no one speaks a second time until everyone has had an opportunity to speak their truth in first response to the prompt.  You don’t have to keep time as long as people have a general sense of taking about the same amount of time. If one person tends to go on much longer without realizing it, you could use a timer if you wish.

Once everyone has had a chance to speak, you might open it up again if there is still time.  Then there will usually be a “giving it meaning” last response.

It is acceptable for anyone who wishes to pass. You don’t have to speak, but everyone is encouraged to speak, and for sure time is made for everyone to share equally.

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Prompt

What are all of the really best and most important ways for families to spend time together? You don’t have to speak about our family or you can use examples you know from families of friends, but you can also just speak about families in general. What are all of the really best and most important ways for families to spend time together?

Connecting

Connecting

Are there things we heard from one another that give us ideas of ways we might add to what we already do together as a family?

challenge

Daily Challenge

Work at creating some meaninful time together as a family in the near future.

Day 2
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Prompt

The animal kingdom has some pretty amazing “families” in it. Today, talk about the things we have in common with animals — needs, drives, roles, responsibilities, etc.

Connecting

Connecting

What can you agree on that we have in common with animals?

challenge

Daily Challenge

It is interesting to think of how much we have in common with animals… they have to be courageous sometimes, and strong sometimes. Many of them have to take care of their young, some of them live in family groups. Think about these amazing qualities in animals and what we as humans can learn from them.

Day 3
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Prompt

Share your views on what makes someone trustworthy. What do people do that allows us to trust them?

Connecting

Connecting

What did you have in common in your descriptions?

challenge

Daily Challenge

We often feel a small twinge of guilt right before we do something that would not be trustworthy. This week, notice when this might happen. Think about what got you to this point. Listen to that message from inside and take a moment before you decide to go forward.

Week Three

Day 1
prompt

Prompt

Today you can each share about someone you look up to… someone you admire. It can be someone in your family, someone at school or work, or somewhere else. It might even be a public figure!

Connecting

Connecting

Can you identify anything that the people you spoke about had in common?

challenge

Daily Challenge

For the rest of today, think about people you admire. Notice your appreciation and work on being someone others can appreciate. What is one helpful thing you can do for someone?

Day 2
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Prompt

If you could pursue any type of career or hobby, what would it be? It could be about getting to a place far away, or exploring something in nature. For parents, maybe it’s something you learned as a kid that you want to start up again and get better at.

Connecting

Connecting

Did you have anything in common?

challenge

Daily Challenge

Learning isn’t just about school. Many adults are interesting and happy because they still love to learn. Today, think about ways you can really pursue what you want to learn about.

Day 3
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Prompt

With your partner today, talk about a time you really appreciate when someone was kind to you. You could recount the event or exchange, you might talk about how the person could have made a choice to have done something less supportive, or maybe you want to talk about the character of this person.

Connecting

Connecting

What can each of you name or identify that makes someone kind? What do kind people have in common?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This week, let’s notice kindness. Really look for ways to be kind to everyone in our family, too.

Week Four

Day 1
prompt

Prompt

Share a favorite hiding place you had when you were younger. Did you share it with others? Was it a secret from everyone? Did you find it by accident or did you decide to create a place?

Connecting

Connecting

What did you have in common about your hiding place?

challenge

Daily Challenge

Sometimes we use hiding places just to have some time to ourselves. We do that differently as we get older, but maybe not SO very differently! Think about ways people hide at the age you are now, and what makes people feel like they need some alone time.

Day 2
prompt

Prompt

Today your prompt is “something I value or something I treasure.” It might be an object, or it could be a person or a relationship.

Connecting

Connecting

Did you have anything in common?

challenge

Daily Challenge

Sometimes it takes courage to share our values. One of the greatest things we can do is to respect other people’s values. If someone makes a statement this week about something they like or value, acknowledge it verbally and take a moment to appreciate it.

tip

Prepare

You’ll need post-it notes or a white board for your next activity.

Day 3
prompt

Prompt

You’ll need post-it notes or a white board for today’s activity.

What are ways you’ve learned to relax or ideas you’ve heard from others about how to calm oneself when feeling stress? During your 5 minutes, write down each idea you have on a post-it note.

Connecting

Connecting

For our last few minutes, let’s collect all our post-it notes on our refrigerator / family calendar / visible spot in our home.

challenge

Daily Challenge

Everybody has stress, but there are things we can learn from one another that might give us new ideas on how to manage it. From what we each learned today, think about ways we can all work to relieve stress in our lives.