For Families: Month 6

Week One

Day 1
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Prompt

Describe how it would look if you were going to design a line of clothing, or a special t-shirt or shirt with a logo or image that best describes our family. (This isn’t to focus on the brands of clothes that are cool.) This is about your own self-expression. Talk about the importance of color, of images, of how bright or subtle images would be.

Connecting

Connecting

How would it be different if families really dressed in a way that exactly expressed who they really were?

challenge

Daily Challenge

Today let yourself look beyond what people are wearing and try to see who they really are on the inside.

Day 2
Introduction

Intro

A word we’re hearinga lot these days is “grit.”  Grit is a combination of passion, courage, and perseverance. People with grit work hard, keep commitments, and learn from mistakes instead of folding because of them.

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Prompt

With your partner today, give examples of people you know or people you know of, such as people in history, who had grit.

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Connecting

What did your examples have in common? Are there ways our family can help one another develop or gain grit?

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Daily Challenge

This week, think about the lessons we might learn from people with grit and look for opportunities to help one another.

Day 3
Introduction

Introduction

Read the following story together:

Lawrence Anthony, a legend in South Africa and author of 3 books including the bestseller, The Elephant Whisperer. He bravely rescued wildlife and rehabilitated elephants all over the globe from human atrocities, including the courageous rescue of Baghdad Zoo animals during US invasion in 2003.

 

On March 7, 2012 Lawrence Anthony died. He is remembered and missed by his wife, 2 sons, 2 grandsons, and numerous elephants. Two days after his passing, the wild elephants showed up at his home led by two large matriarchs. Separate wild herds arrived in droves to say goodbye to their beloved ‘man-friend’. A total of 31 elephants had patiently walked over 12 miles to get to his South African House.

 

Witnessing this spectacle, humans were obviously in awe not only because of the supreme intelligence and precise timing that these elephants sensed about Lawrence’s passing, but also because of the profound memory and emotion the beloved animals evoked in such an organized way: Walking slowly, for days, making their way in a solemn one-by-one queue from their habitat to his house. Lawrence’s wife, Francoise, was especially touched, knowing that the elephants had not been to his house prior to that day for a year and half! But yet they knew where they were going. The elephants obviously wanted to pay their deep respects, honoring their friend who’d saved their lives – so much respect that they stayed for 2 days 2 nights without eating anything. Then one morning, they left, making their long journey back home. 

SOMETHING IN THE UNIVERSE IS GREATER AND DEEPER THAN HUMAN INTELLIGENCE.

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Prompt

What does it mean for us that there are intelligences that are, in some ways, greater than what we as humans have? How do you explain that two wild herds of elephants would know that the person who saved them had died? What does it mean that they would come to that home and stay for days?

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Connecting

What other species might have abilities that would surprise us to understand?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This week, think about the lessons we might learn from nature if we took more time to focus on it.

Week Two

Day 1
Introduction

Introduction

What did everyone notice about nature this week?

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Prompt

When you want to be alone with your thoughts, where are some of the places you go?  Are there ways you can create that kind of space for yourself every now and again at home?

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Connecting

How can we be more conscious of other’s need for space at times? What are some things we as a family could do to create those opportunities for people throughout the day?

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Daily Challenge

This week, notice whether others’ needs for space may be greater or less than yours. If you find that you or someone around you needs space, remember that it isn’t about not wanting to be with you all of the time, but that we all need balance. So we don’t have to take that personally.

Day 2
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Prompt

What importance does curiosity have in our lives? What are some of the most life-saving inventions of our time, and what kind of curiosity was needed for someone to create this solution? What are some of the most life-enhancing inventions of our time? Could they have been developed without curiosity?

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Connecting

What is the lesson in this for us? Sometimes curiosity stems from a problem. What else creates curiosity?

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Daily Challenge

Approach things with curiosity this week. Think about the things that might have led someone to invent the things around us. What can you be curious about?

Day 3
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Prompt

There is an expression about not judging someone until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes. What does that mean to you? What kinds of people’s lives would be the most difficult for you to imagine walking in their shoes?

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Connecting

How can we inspire curiosity and courage in our family?

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Daily Challenge

As you notice people you think are quite different from you, take a moment and see if you can imagine walking a mile in their shoes.

Week Three

Day 1
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Prompt

How can we give back to each other right here in our own family in ways that supports one another and help build trust?

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Connecting

What did you most appreciate about your partners suggestions?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This week, see if we can all build a little more trust in one another. Trust builds over time, and being patient with one another is helpful!

Day 2
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Prompt

This prompt will be done together as a family. If you can, sit in a circle.

For the first 5 minutes come up with the most diverse list of positive traits you can. These are all the reasons we might especially enjoy someone, respect someone, admire someone…. Write each trait on a post-it note.

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Connecting

Post your list where everyone in the house can see them.

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Daily Challenge

Today, make a commitment: “Today I will ….” Here’s an example: “Today, I will find something unique and specific about someone and compliment them on it – something I respect or admire or enjoy.” This is not about complimenting them on clothes or things, but on their talents, their kindness, or that sort of thing.

Day 3
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Prompt

Today is a day for a Blue Sky Moment. Find one to listen to as a family here.

Week Four

Day 1
Introduction

Introduction

As a family, watch this video about emotional intelligence.

Sometimes we think of intelligence as being good at math or school work, or being smart. But there are actually many kinds of intelligence. One of them is emotional intelligence. That’s when we can use patience, insight and imagination in ways that are helpful in our relationships. It means we don’t just react, but instead, we have the self-determination to slow things down and take a moment to use our emotions as information, but not as an excuse to blow up at someone or do something unkind. Emotional intelligence takes practice and willingness.

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Prompt

During your speaking time, talk about the ways you see emotional intelligence being used by our family, and if you have one, give an example of a time that it was really difficult for you to do the right thing, but you were able to find the strength and courage to manage your emotions and respond with kindness or acceptance or were able to keep anger from exploding!

Connecting

Connecting

What was similar about your observations?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This week, be aware of practicing patience and imagination when dealing with other people.

Day 2
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Prompt

Sometimes people react in order to disguise their true feelings. Sometimes that’s intentional and sometimes not. During your time, share examples you’ve seen or can imagine about people showing one reaction and feeling another. Remember that this isn’t a time to talk about people, but a time to learn about behaviors and choices. An example of this might be when kids tease another kid, that kid might say they don’t care, that they didn’t like the others anyway, when what they’re really feeling inside is hurt. Another common example is that people who feel fear sometimes show anger. Explore why this might be.

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Connecting

Were there common threads in your examples?

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Daily Challenge

This week, notice times when the situation is challenging and see if you can take a deep breath, pause for a moment and manage your emotions to have the best possible response toward others.

Day 3
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Prompt

Being emotionally intelligent means that we refuse to blindly trust our first impulses or reactions. What are some situations you can think of where someone did follow their first impulse or initial feelings and it got them in trouble or didn’t work out so well? (Don’t use names, just talk about the situation.)

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Connecting

How is life different when people take a moment, perhaps take a deep breath and wait a moment and manage their emotions and reactions?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This week, remember to take time out for a Blue Sky Moment if you begin to feel stressed or overwhelmed.