For Families: Month 7

Week One

Day 1
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Prompt

What are some ways people use (now) or used (in the past) their emotional intelligence for the good of others or the world around them?

Connecting

Connecting

What would happen if we were to use some of those ideas for the good of our family?

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Daily Challenge

Take an idea or two from today’s conversation and implement them in your personal life. One way to change our family culture is to change ourselves!

Day 2
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Prompt

Our culture has put a lot of pressure on men and boys to “man up” or to be tough. Because of that, we make it really difficult for men and boys to show their emotions. Talk about the ways in which our expectations of men and boys to be tough has some down sides. How does that effect their relationships now? In the future? Who ends up getting hurt by this? How does it keep boys from growing Emotional Intelligence about their own feelings and those of their loved ones?

(For youngers, perhaps “How does it keep boys from understanding their own feelings and those of loved ones?”)

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Connecting

Based on the response to today’s prompt, talk about some ways we can encourage men and boys to feel safe sharing a full range of emotions.

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Daily Challenge

Societal expectations can be difficult to face, whether it’s gender, race, age issues. Before you respond to things today, take just a few moments to ask yourself WHY you’re responding as you are. Knowing we don’t have to behave a certain way just because society expects us to can be incredibly freeing! Rather than using other people’s expectations, though, our expectations of ourselves needs to be that we are respectful of others and kind.

Day 3
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Prompt

What is forgiveness?

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Connecting

What does the forgiver need to do? How does one know when you are forgiven?

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Daily Challenge

Forgiveness needs to be a part of almost every day. Someone might eat the last of your favorite cereal, not reply when asked a question, or leave without saying goodbye. Today, try to readily forgive others.

Week Two

Day 1
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Prompt

How do we ask for forgiveness? How do we accept someone’s apology?

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Connecting

Were there similar ideas that you both appreciate when it comes to forgiveness? How does being forgiven make you feel?

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Daily Challenge

This week, be open to someone else’s acknowledgement of wrongdoing, and be willing to own your own behavior that may be hurtful (whether intentionally or not) as well.

Day 2
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Prompt

Today is a day for a Blue Sky Moment. Find one to listen to as a family here.

Day 3
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Prompt

List all the things that we could compliment people on that don’t rely on whether they’re beautiful, attractive, or have a certain brand of clothes.

Connecting

Connecting

How does complimenting someone on their character or actions make you feel? How does it make them feel?

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Daily Challenge

Encourage the people around you for who they are, and not just what they look like or what they wear.

Week Three

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Prompt

It is valuable to learn lessons from the past or from others’ mistakes. What is one lesson we as a family can learn from something you have seen happen to someone famous? It could be something they did that made them successful (lesson of the value of working hard) or something they did that has been a problem (movie stars that do things that get them arrested.)

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Connecting

Talk about the difference between learning from others and learning from experience. What are the pros and cons of each?

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Daily Challenge

Today, notice what you’re learning from those around you, whether in person, on tv, or on social media.

Day 2
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Prompt

This prompt will be done together as a family. If you can, sit in a circle.

Today, let’s name children’s stories that had lessons in them. Name the story and the lesson learned. Include a brief description if it’s a story we don’t all know well.

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Connecting

What is one lesson that most rings true for you? Which one do you need to ponder further?

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Daily Challenge

Lessons are all around us. Sometimes we learn without even realizing it. Today, think about the last movie or show you watched and notice whether it was trying to teach us something.

Day 3
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Prompt

What is a lesson you feel you could teach others about trust? Remember to focus on the lesson and actions, not naming people.

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Connecting

Learning lessons from experience usually makes a lasting impression. What are some ways learning from other can have a similar, long-lasting impression?

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Daily Challenge

This week, think of ways you could share your story and the lessons you’ve learned with others.

Week Four

Day 1
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Prompt

What are some foods from different ethnic cuisines that we enjoy as a family? Remember pasta is Italian, burritos are Mexican. Gyros are Greek. Sushi is Japanese. General Tso’s chicken and eggrolls are Chinese.

Connecting

Connecting

What did your preferences have in common? How have these ethnic inroads enriched our lives?

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Daily Challenge

Notice the influences around you this week and appreciate the variety of ethnic influences that make life richer for you.

Day 2
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Prompt

What are some of the most delightful products we use that come from other cultures? Is the process of procuring those items helpful to the local population or harmful?

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Connecting

How would being more gentle to the earth in raising or procuring some of these items help the world?

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Daily Challenge

As we go through our week, let’s think about ways we can be more gentle to our earth in the way we live as a family.

Day 3
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Prompt

Sometimes we get really stuck in guilt or regret when we’ve done something we realize we wish we hadn’t done, or something that hurt someone else. Guilt and regret have a role in building a moral compass of kindness, but the role of guilt is in the moment – it is a clue to next steps.

Talk about what we can learn when that little voice inside is talking guilt and regret, and what we can do to make use of that information.

Connecting

Connecting

Were there similarities in your thoughts? Differences? What did you learn from each other’s perspectives?

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Daily Challenge

Are there people that perhaps you owe an apology? If so, this week, see if you can gather your courage and positively resolve the issue, owning your part.