Spokane CIS Middle School & High School

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Month One

Week 1
Introduction

Introduction

Introduce the program to your student:

Today we get to start with five-minute activity. It’s called 5 Radical Minutes. This is my first time working with you, so I’m looking forward to how we’ll do this together. We’ll have a prompt, then you have a chance to respond while I listen, and then I’ll respond to the prompt while you listen. I think this will be a great way to get to know each other better!

prompt

Prompt

For two minutes, allow students to respond to the prompt while you listen. After two minutes, let them listen to your response to the prompt while they listen. It’s not yet time to respond to what students have said. Feel free to allow more time for them to talk as needed.

Today we’re going to talk about something we are glad to have in our lives. Something we appreciate. It might be a pet, it might be an adult or friend, it might be what our school serves for lunch, or your favorite tree!  Anything we are glad to have in our lives.

Connecting

Connecting

The last minute is a time for pairs to share; it is a conversation.

Now we get to have a conversation about it all. Did you have anything in common? It is fine if there wasn’t, but just take a moment to see whether you have something in common about your stories.

challenge

Daily Challenge

This challenge is designed to keep students thinking about these 5 Radical Minutes insights throughout the rest of the week.

This week, think about all the things for which you’re thankful. As you go through the week, notice the things that you appreciate. These can be big things but they can also be little things. It might be a person, an action, something in nature, a pet, or even a texture that makes you feel more comfortable.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • What are your favorite flavors, foods or meals? You can talk about anything from a best meal to restaurants to favorite meals for certain occasions (camping, birthdays, holidays, hanging out with friends, studying, road trips, after working out, etc.)
  • Talk about a time someone was kind to you. You could recount the event or exchange, you might talk about how the person could have made a choice to have done something less supportive, or maybe you want to talk about the character of this person.
Week 2
prompt

Prompt

For two minutes, allow students to respond to the prompt while you listen. After two minutes, let them listen to your response to the prompt while they listen. It’s not yet time to respond to what the student has said. Feel free to allow more time for them to talk as needed.

What is something you’d like to learn about?  It could be a school subject, but it could be any interest you have. It could be about someplace far away, or something in nature.

Connecting

Connecting

The last minute is a time for pairs to share; it is a conversation.

Now we get to have a conversation about it all. Did we have anything in common?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This challenge is designed to keep students thinking about these 5 Radical Minutes insights throughout the rest of the week.

Learning isn’t just about school. Many adults are interesting and happy because they still love to learn. Today, think about ways you can really pursue what you want to learn about.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • Share a favorite hiding place you had when you were younger. Did you share it with others? Was it a secret from everyone? Did you find it by accident or did you decide to create a place?
  • What can each of you name or identify that makes someone kind? What do kind people have in common?
  • Who is someone you look up to… someone you admire? It can be someone in your family, someone at school, or somewhere else. It might even be a public figure!
  • What is something you treasure? It might be an object, or it could be a person or a relationship.
Week 3
prompt

Prompt

For two minutes, allow students to respond to the prompt while you listen. After two minutes, let them listen to your response to the prompt while they listen. It’s not yet time to respond to what the student has said. Feel free to allow more time for them to talk as needed.

What are ways you’ve learned to relax or ideas you’ve heard from others about how to calm oneself when feeling stress?

Connecting

Connecting

The last minute is a time for pairs to share; it is a conversation.

Did we have anything in common? Do we have some new ideas to try?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This challenge is designed to keep students thinking about these 5 Radical Minutes insights throughout the rest of the week.

Everybody has stress, but there are things we can learn from one another that might give us new ideas on how to manage it. From what you learned today, think about ways you can work to relieve stress in your life.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • What do you love to do on the weekend?
  • What are some attributes, behaviors, or attitudes you can list of the people you most respect?
  • When was a time you felt fortunate or a time that something turned out pretty well for you?
Week 4
prompt

Prompt

For two minutes, allow students to respond to the prompt while you listen. After two minutes, let them listen to your response to the prompt while they listen. It’s not yet time to respond to what the student has said. Feel free to allow more time for them to talk as needed.

Today, share about someplace you’d like to go or see in the next year or two.  Talk about what makes that place of interest to you, and maybe who you would like to go with you.

Connecting

Connecting

The last minute is a time for pairs to share; it is a conversation.

Were there similarities about your interests?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This challenge is designed to keep students thinking about these 5 Radical Minutes insights throughout the rest of the week.

New places are all around us! Often, when we’re in the car we’re looking at a screen. This week, see how many times you can put your phone down and look at the world around you.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • Share something that was really funny that made you laugh. It is great if it is something that happened in our class or in your family, but if you can’t think of anything that happened to you personally, what about something that was really funny in a movie or book? Before you begin to share, think about our ethic of not laughing at other people because they are different, or in a way that would make them uncomfortable at all. This needs to be something that was fun for everyone.
  • What is something kind you have seen someone do at school. This could be recently, or it could go back as far as you like. Just an example of how you saw kindness in school.
  • Describe something about nature that you like. It might be some place in nature you like to go, or a particular kind of plant or animal that you like, or some other aspect of nature that calls to you.

Month Two

Week 1
prompt

Prompt

For two minutes, allow students to respond to the prompt while you listen. After two minutes, let them listen to your response to the prompt while they listen. It’s not yet time to respond to what students have said. Feel free to allow more time for them to talk as needed.

Talk about the importance of honesty, or of telling the truth.

Connecting

Connecting

The last minute is a time for pairs to share; it is a conversation.

What did you both notice?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This challenge is designed to keep students thinking about these 5 Radical Minutes insights throughout the rest of the week.

There are so many reasons that being truthful is important. One that matters most is that whether people trust you often rests on whether they experience you as being honest. Notice today moments when you’re very truthful, and any moments when you might want to hide the truth a little.
Do they make you feel differently?

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • Talk about all the ideas you have for how to help yourself get to sleep at night. You can share your own ideas or those you’ve heard work for others.
  • Share what you notice and what you like or don’t like about the seasons of the year. What activities do you like that are dependent on certain seasons?
Week 2
prompt

Prompt

For two minutes, allow students to respond to the prompt while you listen. After two minutes, let them listen to your response to the prompt while they listen. It’s not yet time to respond to what the student has said. Feel free to allow more time for them to talk as needed.

This is one of those prompts that gives you the choice to talk about something you’ve observed, not necessarily something that happened to you. Remember, when we do these, we don’t talk about a specific person, but just what we saw happen. So we’re not talking about someone, but about what happened to someone. Talk about a time you saw someone’s feelings get hurt. Include your thoughts about how it felt for that person, perhaps talk about what you did, and what you think that person wanted others to do to help him or her in that moment.

Connecting

Connecting

The last minute is a time for pairs to share; it is a conversation.

What did your stories have in common?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This challenge is designed to keep students thinking about these 5 Radical Minutes insights throughout the rest of the week.

We often see someone’s feelings get hurt. What is important is what we do to support that person in the moment. When we see someone’s feelings get hurt, especially when we can see it is on purpose, we need to stand up for them in whatever way is safe – however we are able. Notice people’s feelings this week and stand up for someone if you need to.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • This one is just for fun… If you could change one school rule, what would it be and why? How would that make students happier?
  • What are the ways that people in our world feel stress? What are the circumstances that cause people stress? Remember we can talk about something we know happens in people’s lives and not name the people. You might start your sentences, “People feel stress when _____.”
  • What do people do to show that they care about one another? You might say, “Friends might help you with your homework,” or “Friends might give you a lift somewhere.”
Week 3
prompt

Prompt

For two minutes, allow students to respond to the prompt while you listen. After two minutes, let them listen to your response to the prompt while they listen. It’s not yet time to respond to what the student has said. Feel free to allow more time for them to talk as needed.

Talk about anger. What does anger do to friendships? What does it do to the person who is angry and what does it do to the person with whom they’re angry? How much does it matter how we manage our anger? What lessons have you learned either because of your own anger or someone else’s? Remember to talk about a behavior and not a person.

Connecting

Connecting

The last minute is a time for pairs to share; it is a conversation.

Were there similar thoughts about the impact of anger on your friendships or relationships?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This challenge is designed to keep students thinking about these 5 Radical Minutes insights throughout the rest of the week.

Emotions aren’t so much the problem as how we manage those emotions. Sometimes anger is what mobilizes us to take action instead of letting someone walk all over us. Sometimes angry people are the ones start a movement that makes a difference. Today, let yourself notice your emotions and think about whether there is a way to use them as a force for good.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • If you could have dinner with one person from history – someone who died before you were born – who would that be? What would you want to ask?  What would be interesting about that person or his/her life?
  • When life is tough, there’s usually something we reach for to make things feel better, and often it’s food. Do you have a favorite comfort food? Is it good for you or maybe not so healthy?
Week 4
prompt

Prompt

For two minutes, allow students to respond to the prompt while you listen. After two minutes, let them listen to your response to the prompt while they listen. It’s not yet time to respond to what the student has said. Feel free to allow more time for them to talk as needed.

Describe one or several people with whom you most enjoy spending time and talk about why. It might be that they make you laugh, or that they listen, or forget about your problems… And we’re practicing not naming names, but rather describing that person’s traits – what they do that we so enjoy.

Connecting

Connecting

The last minute is a time for pairs to share; it is a conversation.

How were your descriptions of enjoyable people similar?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This challenge is designed to keep students thinking about these 5 Radical Minutes insights throughout the rest of the week.

It is wonderful to have a range of people we enjoy. One thing about using this program is that some of you will find new friends in the process. This week, look for traits you appreciate in the people around you. There might be more than you think!

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • Think about a culture that is quite different than ours that could be interesting to visit. What makes that culture of interest?
  • The Olympics are special in several ways. They bring all different cultures together to watch people who are really talented and dedicated. There are people who make it into the Olympics who come from very ordinary backgrounds, just like us. If you could have a ticket to go to the Olympics to watch one sport or competition, what would it be and why?

Month Three

Week 1
prompt

Prompt

For two minutes, allow students to respond to the prompt while you listen. After two minutes, let them listen to your response to the prompt while they listen. It’s not yet time to respond to what students have said. Feel free to allow more time for them to talk as needed.

When you have a problem between yourself and someone else, what makes working it out easier? Talk about traits that make it easier to work out our differences.

Connecting

Connecting

The last minute is a time for pairs to share; it is a conversation.

What did you both notice?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This challenge is designed to keep students thinking about these 5 Radical Minutes insights throughout the rest of the week.

Sometimes we are the reason that we don’t work things out with someone. For the rest of today, notice whether you are really willing to compromise with other people or whether you expect them to come more than half way.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • When you have a problem between yourself and someone else, what makes working it out easier? Talk about traits that make it easier to work out our differences.
  • What are some of the things people do to help others feel safe?
Week 2
prompt

Prompt

For two minutes, allow students to respond to the prompt while you listen. After two minutes, let them listen to your response to the prompt while they listen. It’s not yet time to respond to what the student has said. Feel free to allow more time for them to talk as needed.

Sometimes when we’re in the middle of something difficult, it is hard to remember that we will learn from it, we will grow past it, and some day we will look back on it and recognize that it is no longer a problem for us at all. Talk about something that you were afraid of when you were little, like before you were in school.

Connecting

Connecting

The last minute is a time for pairs to share; it is a conversation.

What do you both recognize about how we learn to cope with our fears and anxieties?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This challenge is designed to keep students thinking about these 5 Radical Minutes insights throughout the rest of the week.

Sometimes it is really helpful to see how far we’ve come and to recognize that growing past a fear or challenge is often done in many small steps! This week, try to think about other areas you’ve grown and learned to cope with things.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • Talk about the appreciation you have for someone who is really there for you.
  • Describe your perfect Saturday! What you like to do, where you like to go, and who like you to spend time with – anything that helps make a day perfect for you.
  • What is one part of your day that you would enjoy more if everybody were more kind.
Week 3
prompt

Prompt

For two minutes, allow students to respond to the prompt while you listen. After two minutes, let them listen to your response to the prompt while they listen. It’s not yet time to respond to what the student has said. Feel free to allow more time for them to talk as needed.

We know that sometimes people intend to hurt someone else’s feelings, and sometimes we don’t mean to but we realize later that we did. Either way, we can end up feeling badly about it. Today we’re going to figure out what we can do when we realize we’ve hurt someone’s feelings. Talk about ways to make amends when we offend someone, what to do when you hurt someone’s feelings, or you think you may have hurt them.

Connecting

Connecting

The last minute is a time for pairs to share; it is a conversation.

What did your stories and ideas have in common?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This challenge is designed to keep students thinking about these 5 Radical Minutes insights throughout the rest of the week.

All of us need to learn how to reconnect with someone when something happens between us. It helps a lot to be able to apologize. We all need to learn how to do that! This week, think about a time you might have hurt someone, and could now make amends for.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • If you were going to write a book, who would the main character be and what would the plot be?
  • If all of the clothes you own could only be one color, what color would that be? What do you like about that color? What do you think that color says about someone?
Week 4
prompt

Prompt

For two minutes, allow students to respond to the prompt while you listen. After two minutes, let them listen to your response to the prompt while they listen. It’s not yet time to respond to what the student has said. Feel free to allow more time for them to talk as needed.

Talk about something you’ve done or how hard you’ve worked on something, or even how you’ve handled a difficult situation… What are you proud of?

Connecting

Connecting

The last minute is a time for pairs to share; it is a conversation.

How is feeling pride different than bragging?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This challenge is designed to keep students thinking about these 5 Radical Minutes insights throughout the rest of the week.

This week, think about the value of doing something well and not just rushing through. These moments can make you proud and stick with you for years to come!

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • Today, share about the stuffed animal or other toy you most wanted to take to bed with you when you were little.
  • Who is your favorite super-hero and what powers he or she has that you envy or enjoy.

Month Four

Week 1
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Prompt

A word we’re hearing used a lot these days is “grit.”  Grit is a combination of passion, courage, and perseverance. People with grit work hard, keep commitments, and learn from mistakes instead of folding because of them.  With your partner today, give examples of people you know or people you know of, either friends or people in history, who had grit.

Connecting

Connecting

What did your examples have in common? Are there ways friends can help one another develop or gain grit?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This week, think about the lessons we might learn from people with grit and look for opportunities to help one another.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • There’s great value in sketching. How is drawing a picture on paper different than using a computer software for drawing? What is lost when you use a computer software?
  • Think of a situation in which someone blaming someone else for something. [Come up with an example of blaming you’re both familiar with.]How can we each add something to that imaginary situation that moves the conversation in a positive direction?
Week 2
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Prompt

When people lived in the Stone Age, tribes were very important for safety. People needed more than just their immediate family to survive the rigors and threats of the jungles or forests. Think about the importance of tribes in those days. Now think about cliques in your own lives. They are a little bit like a tribe, in that they are people who might think like we do, want to help us feel better when life throws us a curve, and maybe they dress sort of like we do. But now that we don’t have lions and tigers and bears chasing us, our need for tribes or cliques is very different. Not letting others join our group or club or clique has negative impact to people on both sides – those who don’t let someone in and those who are shut out.  Talk about the ways in which you see cliques having negative impacts on people’s lives.

Connecting

Connecting

With your minute of connection, see if you can come up with one idea for how kids could loosen the exclusivity of their cliques and groups and include kids who might not be just like them.

challenge

Daily Challenge

Try looking at the people around you differently today. Maybe you could say hi to someone you wouldn’t normally, or compliment someone to add a smile to their day.  Turn to your partner and state, “This week, I will….” then fill in the blank. Here’s an example: “This week, I will strike up a conversation with someone I don’t know, who might be very different than me.”

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • Our culture has put a lot of pressure on men and boys to “man up” or to be tough. Because of that, we make it really difficult for men and boys to show their emotions. Talk about the ways in which our expectations of men and boys to be tough has some down sides. How does that effect their relationships now? In the future? Who ends up getting hurt by this?
Week 3
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Prompt

Describe how it would look if you were going to design a line of clothing, or a special t-shirt or shirt with a logo or image that best describes you.  This isn’t to focus on the brands of clothes that are cool.  This is about your own self-expression.  Talk about the importance of color, of images, of how bright or subtle images would be.

Connecting

Connecting

How would it be different if everyone really dressed in a way that exactly expressed who they really were?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This week, let yourself look beyond what kids are wearing and try to see who people really are on the inside.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • Our culture puts a lot of pressure on girls to be pretty, to be attractive, to be a certain way. We now have lots of role models who aren’t that way, but there is still a lot of the old messaging in advertising and media. How do those kinds of negative role expectations limit girls and young women?  Who makes these decisions and what do THEY gain when you follow these expectations? What gets lost for those who believe this message?
Week 4
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Prompt

When you want to be alone with your thoughts, where are some of the places you go?  Are there ways you can create that kind of space for yourself every now and again during the school day? How about at home?

Connecting

Connecting

How can we be more conscious of other’s need for space at times? What are some things we as a school could do to create those opportunities for people throughout the school day?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This week, notice whether others’ needs for space may be greater or less than yours. If you find that you or someone around you needs space, remember that it isn’t about not wanting to be with you all of the time, but that we all need balance.  So we don’t have to take that personally.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • If a movie star, musician, or famous YouTuber could come to have lunch with you here at school, who would you want that to be and why?
  • Who are some of the people at school or in your life who understand how to help kids with positive self-esteem? What do they do that is helpful or supportive? Describe their personalities, attitudes and behaviors.

Month Five

Week 1
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Prompt

Anyone anywhere can be creative. Creativity isn’t just about art. It can be about logic, numbers, analysis, rhythm, shapes, color, words, relationships… The list goes on and on. In what ways are you creative?

Connecting

Connecting

Did anything surprise you about the areas of ability you shared? What would it mean if we all really believed we are creative? What would we be able to accomplish?

challenge

Daily Challenge

Make a list of the ways you’re creative. Add to it during the week. Sometimes just changing our perspective in how we view our own ability can make a really big difference in our opinion of ourselves.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • When we’re out of practice in a foreign language, we lose fluency. Practice makes it better. The same is true with creative thinking. What are some ways to build creative fluency?
Week 2
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Prompt

What importance does curiosity have in our lives? What are some of the most life-saving inventions of our time, and what kind of curiosity was needed for someone to create this solution? What are some of the most life-enhancing inventions of our time? Could they have been developed without curiosity?

Connecting

Connecting

What is the lesson in this for us? Sometimes curiosity stems from a problem. What else creates curiosity?

challenge

Daily Challenge

Approach things with curiosity this week. Think about the things that might have led someone to invent the things around us. What can you be curious about?

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • Think about the first trip to the moon. Someone had to ask, “What if….” In order to make that first trip happen. They had to confront the challenges. How can kids your age be courageous after curiosity? Answer this: “What if…” Here are a few examples: Teens are pressured to look a certain way. What if we got comfortable in our own skin? What could happen? Teens are pressured to act a certain way. What if we all got comfortable saying no to peer pressure? Teens can often be judged negatively by adults in the community. What if we took some time to give back and serve the very people appear to have negative thoughts about us? What could happen if we all respected and appreciated each other more?
  • What are some of the ways animals on the earth are stressed and how they might need protection? There are lots of different ways this is happening, from loss of habitat to pollution and many other ways as well. This isn’t a time to correct or dispute someone’s perception. This is more of a time for a philosophical conversation about what’s happening on the planet.
Week 3
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Prompt

Emotional intelligence is “the quality that enables us to confront with patience, insight, and imagination the many problems that we face in our effective relationship with ourselves and others.” How is being patient, insightful, and imaginative helpful in our everyday relationships?

Connecting

Connecting

What was similar about your observations?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This week, be mindful of practicing patience and imagination when dealing with other people.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • What are some ways someone’s reaction might disguise their true feelings, whether intentionally or unintentionally? What might be at the root of these disguises? Some ideas might be hunger, fear, etc.
  • What are some ways we can remind ourselves to investigate our own reactions so they’re a more accurate portrayal of how we really feel?
  • Being emotionally intelligent means that we refuse to blindly trust our first impulses or the inherent wisdom of our feelings. What are some situations you can think of where someone did follow their impulse or initial feels and it got them in trouble? (Don’t use names, just talk about the situation.)
Week 4
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Prompt

What is forgiveness? How do we ask for forgiveness? How do we accept someone’s apology?

Connecting

Connecting

How does one know when he or she is forgiven?

challenge

Daily Challenge

Forgiveness is a part of every single day. Someone might cut you off in line, bump you in the hallway, not smile at you, or not reply when asked a question. Today, try to readily forgive others.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • What are some things that we could compliment people on that don’t rely on whether they’re beautiful, attractive, or have a certain brand of clothes?
  • What are your ideas for generating greater respect across the school population? What about in our community?

Month Six

Week 1
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Prompt

What are some foods from different ethnic cuisines that you like? Remember pasta is Italian, burritos are Mexican. Gyros are Greek. Sushi is Japanese. General Tso’s chicken and eggrolls are Chinese.

Connecting

Connecting

What did your preferences have in common? How have these ethnic inroads enriched our lives?

challenge

Daily Challenge

Notice the influences around you today and appreciate the variety of ethnic influences that make life richer for you.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • What inventions or products or gifts to the world have come from other cultures or countries? (If they can’t think of things you could ask what kinds of cool cars and popular everyday cars come from other countries (Toyota – Japan, Germany for BMWs, Italy for Lamborghini and Vespa) types of motorcycles, Italy is known for fashion, Ireland and Scotland for wool sweaters/clothes, etc.)
  • Choose 3 countries. What intrigues or interests you about them?
  • Who are 4 people from an ethnic group other than your own that you respect and why?
Week 2
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Prompt

If you were to decide on a service project [describe that if needed], to what group would you most want to donate time?  Some options could be homeless, veterans, elderly, the hungry, children (especially disadvantaged children), the humane society.

You may name others that are local to you but be sure students know they are welcome to add to the list rather than choose from it.

Connecting

Connecting

What did you have in common? Even if the cause is different, we often share similar motivations.

challenge

Daily Challenge

Helping others helps everyone. Be helpful this week, even if it’s in small ways. Your actions can make a big difference.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • If you took a small step in the direction of organizing a service to others, what would it be?
  • Call out groups of people and volley back your first ideas about what kind of service or support could be helpful for them. It is just great if your ideas are for something small and doable, not necessarily some huge project. What is something that a group of high school kids could do?
    • Elders: the older people you know of in your neighborhood.
    • Single mothers who are working outside of the home
    • Veterans returning from war (What if we invited them on Veteran’s Day to show that we appreciate what they did. What if we honored them on that day?)
    • Homeless people
    • Kids who have serious illnesses and are in and out of hospitals
    • Students struggling with depression
    • Elementary school kids who have trouble keeping up in school
    • Neighborhood kids who go home to an empty house after school
Week 3
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Prompt

is one lesson kids can learn from something you have seen happen to someone famous? It could be something they did that made them successful (lesson of the value of working hard) or something they did that has been a problem (movie stars that end up in rehab and even more, the ones that don’t go to rehab but need it!)

Connecting

Connecting

Talk about the difference between learning from others and learning from experience. What are the pros and cons of each?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This week, notice what you’re learning from those around you, whether in person, on tv, or on social media.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • What is a lesson you feel you could teach others about trust, told without mentioning names or necessarily whether it happened to you or someone else, but focus on the lesson.
  • What are some children’s stories that had lessons in them? Name the story and the lesson learned. Include a brief description if it’s a story we don’t all know well.
Week 4
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Prompt

Sometimes we get really stuck in guilt or regret when we’ve done something we later wish we hadn’t done, or something that hurt someone else.  Guilt and regret have a role in building a moral compass of kindness, but not by continuing to feel the guilt or regret forever.  Talk about what we can learn when that little voice inside is talking guilt and regret, and what we can do to make use of that information.

Connecting

Connecting

How can guilt or regret push us in a positive direction? How can we listen to that voice more easily rather than getting stuck?

challenge

Daily Challenge

Think about the ways guilt and regret can be really helpful in the short run, and why it isn’t helpful to hang onto over time. This perspective shift can help us in powerful ways!

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • Sometimes, when we feel guilt or regret, the most direct way and the way of positive character would be to go straight to the person and give an apology and make amends. What are some of the ways you could start that conversation and what would someone need to say?
  • Sometimes we can’t speak to the person involved in the situation that causes us guilt or regret. It might be that we don’t know who they are (like if we did something damaging to a car and walked away, and then felt bad, but we don’t know who owns the car and it has been driven away by now).  Sometimes they’ve died since the event that felt bad. Sometimes you know it really would make the outcome worse to try to have a conversation about it. What are some ways people can make amends when they can’t approach the other person or people involved?

Month Seven

Week 1
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Prompt

What factors make people want to work really hard to achieve their goals? What do they give up as a result?

Connecting

Connecting

Success in life is not just the commitment to work hard. It also involves a commitment to who you are and who you want to be. It is the commitment to working through difficult experiences with strength. Talk about things kids your age can commit to, and what it might take to get to that specific goal.

challenge

Daily Challenge

Consider a goal that you would like to pursue and think through what it would take for you to accomplish that goal. No matter how difficult, commitment to hard work will help you get there!

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • Where does the role of clarity come into commitment?
  • Why do you suppose true success rises from our passion?
  • What can you do right now if you don’t know what you’re passionate about pursuing yet?
  • What’s one small step you can make today towards your goal?
Week 2
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Prompt

“Change your thoughts, change your life.” Is a powerful statement. Share a few ideas about how this is a true statement.

You may name others that are local to you but be sure students know they are welcome to add to the list rather than choose from it.

Connecting

Connecting

What did you notice that was similar? What did your partner mention that you may not have considered before?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This week, consider who and what you can become. Your upbringing plays a part but doesn’t determine your future, because you alone can be in control of your thoughts.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • “If you do what is hard, your life will be easier. If you do what is easy, your life will be hard.”Talk about the truth in this statement.
  • Talk about someone who became something that was more than most other kids who have a similar upbringing. Someone who made it far, given whatever life circumstance s/he had. Remember to do this without naming names, but by giving examples.
Week 3
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Prompt

Today, think about how you’ve made your friends. You might find that some are friends because they’ve lived in your neighborhood and you’ve known them for a long time. Some are kids you met doing an activity that you enjoy, like sports or marching band or a school club. You probably enjoy different friends for different reasons. What are the reasons for kids to enlarge their circle of friends and what are some of ways kids can do that?

Connecting

Connecting

What did you learn about what your partner shared?

challenge

Daily Challenge

Consider trying one of the ideas you talked about today to enlarge your friend group.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • When you think about having real friends, there are probably a range of attributes you appreciate. Some friends might be good listeners, others might make you laugh. For your time today, talk about the attributes and character traits you look for in real friends.
  • What are activities our school or community could sponsor that could allow kids to meet new people and perhaps have friendships grow out of these activities?
  • What are some of the things kids your age (and adults!) can do to be good friends to others?
Week 4
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Prompt

What can students do as individuals to help new kids feel welcome? What about welcoming people in other areas of life? (Like a new neighbor, new club member, etc.)

Connecting

Connecting

What did your ideas have in common?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This week, take personal responsibility for your actions. New students aren’t the only ones who appreciate a warm, welcoming person around. Let’s fill the halls, classrooms, lunchroom, and community with warmth and helpfulness!

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • What can the school do to help new students feel welcome? How does this differ from what an individual student can do?
  • What can individual group leaders do to make new people feel welcome? (A great example would be a classroom teacher.)
  • If you were going to organize a Newcomers Club, how could that look? How would it work? How would current students be part of the success?

Month Eight

Week 1
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Prompt

Wisdom of the heart can be described as compassion, emotional fortitude, awareness of others, and the ability to conduct yourself in a way that is considerate of others and the world around you. What are ways we can grow our wisdom of the heart?

Connecting

Connecting

We can’t time travel, but if we could go back and change things, sometimes we would. Often, this regret about past decisions shows how much we’ve grown or learned. What is something you’d go back and do differently now that you’ve grown more wisdom of the heart?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This week, work on growing your wisdom of the heart.  Be generous with others.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • What’s the difference between being smart and having wisdom of the mind? What do people need to do to become smart? What do people need to do to become wise?
  • How do we acquire wisdom of the heart?
  • What is the value of wisdom of the heart? How would the world be better if we all had more wisdom of the heart?
Week 2
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Prompt

Social media often brings people stress. We all struggle with envy, comparison, fear of missing out, loneliness, and discontent. There’s pressure to get more followers, more likes, more retweets. It’s easy to form our view of ourselves based on what others think is beautiful, funny, or valuable.

How does being stressed about social media rob us of our freedom?

Connecting

Connecting

What are some ways to regain this lost freedom?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This week, be conscious of the choice you have in your own freedom when it comes to social media. Begin to take back lost ground today!

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • How do friends on social media compare to friends in real life? When you think about the time you spend which each type, which type of friendship is more enjoyable?
  • Social media can easily become an addiction. What goes on with our relationships when we’re addicted to social media?
  • What are some ways to build ego strength or ego protection around social media? In other words, how can we build confidence in who we are before we go to social media, instead of going to social media for affirmation?
Week 3
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Prompt

Since the advent of social media, we often forget to be present. Our conversations and time are continually bombarded by alerts, text messages, and emails. How can we value and prioritize the people around us in a way that’s meaningful to both of you?

Connecting

Connecting

What suggestions stood out the most to you? What can you implement in your own life moving forward?

challenge

Daily Challenge

Today, practice being present. Consider listening fully to someone who is with you rather than allowing a phone alert interrupt your time.  See how it is to continue listening to someone rather than take out your phone when you hear an alert.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • Social media can often make us feel less-than. What are some ways we can remember to consciously check in logically and emotionally about our time spent, and what we’re viewing?
  • It’s been said that people post on social media for two main reasons: to complain or to make themselves feel better. Why do kids your age post on social media?
  • When we feel down, we often turn to social media. What are some things kids our age could do to feel better that doesn’t depend on or use of social media?
Week 4
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Prompt

Today, talk about a person who has made a positive impact on your life or the lives of others.

Connecting

Connecting

What did your examples have in common? What traits are similar?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This week, consider ways you can be a positive influence on the people around you. This is world-changing stuff!

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • People try to change the world in ways that aren’t so great:
    • Complain about it
    • Have lots of money
    • Being loud and yelling a lot
    • Make fun of everything
    • Letting the smartest people figure it out
    • Ignoring the bad
    • Being famous and super cool
    • Being powerful

What are some ways you can each change the world? (It might just be by encouraging one person every single day

Month Nine

Week 1
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Prompt

When a friendship starts to unravel, what are some positive ways to reconnect or work through differences?

Connecting

Connecting

What was similar about your responses? What role does listening play in working through differences?

challenge

Daily Challenge

This week, really listen to your friends. Value their opinions and be open to having differing perspectives.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • Friendships bring a lot of satisfaction to our lives, but sometimes they get off track. What are some reasons this might happen?
  • Communication is key to maintaining healthy friendships. What sort of difficulties arise when we wait to work through any differences?
  • If something hurtful happens between friends or in class, what signals or words can we use to call attention to it without being defensive, abrasive or blaming?

NOTE: If the following ideas haven’t surfaced, you might add that saying “ouch” if you’re the one who feels hurt, and replying with “oops” if you said the hurtful thing, then anybody can say “pause,” place a hand on your chest to indicate the desire or willingness that we stop for a moment, take a deep breath and talk it through.

Week 2
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Prompt

Denzel Washington stated in a commencement address, “Dreams without goals are just dreams.” How can you create some life, yearly, monthly, weekly, and daily goals to help you accomplish your dreams?

Connecting

Connecting

. Did you have anything in common about your goals?

challenge

Daily Challenge

Today, keep thinking about some small goals that will help you achieve your larger goals.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • Another part of achieving goals, according to Denzel Washington, is discipline and consistency. In other words, HARD WORK. What are some ways can we stay motivated when things get hard?
  • “Working really hard is what successful people do. Hard work works.” During your sharing time, think of as many well-known, successful figures as you can and what they had to do to achieve their success. What barriers or obstacles did they overcome?
  • Most successful people don’t find success overnight. They had to work at it. You have been working on it by all you’ve learned at school, but there’s more to getting to your goals.  So now let’s look at how you’ll continue to grow that success.  What are some things kids your age can do to stay on the path of success? Let’s each share a thought as we go around the circle.
Week 3
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Prompt

What are some areas you plan to grow in over the summer break? What is a goal you could have for this summer that can influence the people around you for good?

Connecting

Connecting

What did your goals have in common?

challenge

Daily Challenge

Although most of us strive to become better versions of ourselves, sometimes life is difficult and sometimes we want to fold.  Think about that as you interact with others today.  Although we have the lion’s share of working on our success, none of us can do this alone. This week, think about how you can be encouraging others in their journey toward success.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • We’ve spoken about change recently. How have you grown and changed for the better this school year?
  • For many kids, school is a place where they feel safe. For others, school is where they get to see their buddies and friends. As you look ahead towards summer, what are some ways you can stay connected with friends that would make your summer better and more meaningful? In particular, what are ways you can arrange for face-to-face time?
Week 4
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Prompt

Alan Cohen is a businessman and author. He says, “You are not required to dive onto subway tracks or become a public hero. Your assignment is the piece of the world you touch. All acts of compassion bring the world closer to bliss.”

It can be overwhelming to think about all the things that are needed in changing the world or making it a better place. This quote helps bring the balance and perspective. Describe the piece of the world you touch – who are the people in your world? Think about one person who most needs your support or help right now. Without naming that person, can you describe one act of kindness or support you could do that would make a difference?

Connecting

Connecting

What did you have in common? What challenged or encouraged you about what your partner shared?

challenge

Daily Challenge

Today, practice compassion. When we do this, even in seemingly small ways, we can make a big difference in people’s lives.

One Step Further

A Step Further

If you’d like to explore more topics during your mentoring this week, consider the following questions:

  • Talk about a time in your life that held the possibility for you of “paying it forward.”It could be a kindness someone did that you realized you, too, could do for others.  If you can’t think of an example that has happened to you, what might be the kind of thing you can imagine doing that would be a “pay it forward” kind of thing?
  • What role does gratitude play in influence? Does acknowledging and appreciating others make others more willing to listen to what we have to say?